Sex life in a rut?
Monday, December 7th, 2009Many moons ago Barbra Streisand & Donna Summer sang… "It's raining, it's pouring, my lovelife is boring me to tears - after all these years….”
Well, unfortunately in long-term relationships, it is so easy to be stuck in a rut with your spouse or significant other and while this may be ‘comfortable’, it can make your sex life a little ordinary. However, by mixing it up and using these tips, you can revive that spark that first brought the two of you together. Here are a few pointers to ponder.
Sex Tip 1: Treat yourself
It is not possible to have great sex if you do not feel sexy. So splash out and treat yourself to a new aftershave or some new lingerie, whatever is needed to put a spring back into your step.
Sex Tip 2: Flirt with each other
Send your partner playful, sexy messages throughout the day. Build up the anticipation by telling him what you are wearing and what you’d like him to do later.
Sex Tip 3: In the mood
Do not undervalue the power of lighting a few candles. Make sure your bedroom is sexy and does not have toys, laundry or paperwork littering it.
Sex Tip 4: Just kiss
Agree to place a ban on sex for a certain length of time and just kiss and focus on foreplay. Abstention from sex has the added benefit of charging you both up.
Sex Tip 5: Surprise!
Do not wear any underwear and let him/her find out.
Sex Tip 6: Watch a sexy film together
It does not have to be porn for it to be sexy. Some great movies are Nine and a Half Weeks, Body Heat and Last Tango in Paris.
Sex Tip 7: Buy a new toy
Nothing spices up a dull sex life like a new adult toy. Begin your search at sites like LoveTheMagicWand.com where you’ll find the best Hitachi Magic Massager articles, information, raves and reviews and links to the stores that stock them. Shopping together online for something sexy and the anticipation of your package’s arrival will create a new ‘buzz’ in your bedroom.
Sex Tip 8: Discover a new position!
Visit Google – type in ’sex position’ then click on ‘Images’ – I guarantee you that something will catch your eye – enough said!
Sex Tip 9: Fantasy Island
A little role-playing can be fun and do not limit yourselves to the bedroom. Start having fun before you even get home – meet at a restaurant or bar and pretend you just met.
Sex Tip 10: Get out of the bedroom
Sometimes a change of locale is all that’s needed to spice up the action. Try having sex somewhere out of the ordinary; in your spa or swimming pool late at night, in the back of the car… just be careful – because you don’t want to be caught!
If any of the ideas makes you feel jittery – then that is the one ‘adventure’ you ought to try first! The great part of being with someone for an extended period is that you can fully trust and feel safe with him or her, so do not hesitate to try something out of your normal comfort zone, especially when you know it is going to spice your sex life right up!
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